What will it take for us to awaken?
My life seems to be reflecting so much unrest at the moment as I move through my personal experiences, witness and support those close to me, and then of course witness and contribute to the larger, ‘world community’, with all its feuding and angst over authority and power. The troubles of our family in Syria, America, Brazil, Turkey, and Egypt to mention just a few are in my awareness. Let’s not forget our family of plants and animals that are being challenged by us in extreme ways. Why are we annihilating and abusing our own family members in the name of profit and power? Maybe I’m an idealist but it is my belief that the solution to all of the feuds in our family can only be solved with love. Make no mistake; we will not heal with blame, greed, and power over. We will not solve the worlds hunger with GMO’s, we will not live peacefully by winning wars, we will not protect our environment with deforestation, we will not find a solution to energy consumption with fracking, and we will not support the needy and vulnerable with capitalism, but we will heal ourselves and the world with loving action.
So then the question is “how do we step into this loving place and begin to take loving action (or Love IN Action)?
I feel the first step has to be about being brave and wise enough to look at the truth that lies within us, and before us, and then to take responsibility for our part in what we see whether painful or not, instead of blaming everyone and anyone we can think of.
Pema Chodron writes
“ It is a very common and ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others….. Blaming is a way to protect your heart, of trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground.”
But finding comfortable ground does not come by denying the truth. Eventually the truth will be told and it will be revealed to us. If we continue to ignore the voice of the Earth or of love, it will shout louder and louder. Not because the Earth or Love wants it’s own way, but because it love us and wants us to know the truth of our being. And as every addict knows the first step to recovery is always admitting that you have a problem.
What’s our addiction? What addictive behaviors run rampant through our world or as i like to see it, our larger family line? Blame. The blame culture is a world epidemic. Unless we are prepared to own this truth and stop the endless blame game and have the courage to own our part, we will be standing still whist watching our beautiful world become harder and harsher, with more unrest, more family feuds, and further separation, until the family unit breakdowns completely.
It would be helpful to question what good is blame, other than a brief stepping-stone to Joy? When has long term chronic blame EVER been useful? In truth if we stay stuck on the blame stone we only stand to disempower ourselves with the false belief that life happens to us, that we are victims of life instead of embodying the truth that we are glorious creators. Is that so hard to take on board? Is it so hard to believe that we create our reality? The refusal by the masses to embrace this truth is at the root of our unrest. Does it not make sense that if unrest is felt in the body for long enough, unrest will be seen and experienced outside of us? Is it not obvious that if disempowerment is felt within, we will see it outside of us and we will notice all the evidence of it to back up our story of disempowerment?
I once held a belief that I should stay positive and only allow myself to feel positive things, think positively and at all cost, to not allow the calls of anger and sadness and guilt and fear to rise in me. But sweet life has taught me that I can not live half a life and only feel half of my feelings. It taught me that I can not run from myself and my humanness. It invited me to stand and feel All of the experience, to embrace the fairy tale and the nightmare, the love and the fear, the easy family members as well as the more difficult and complex ones. Elizabeth Mattis Namgyl in her book ‘The power of an open question’ states “We have to make ourselves big enough to encompass it all” But what does this mean? I believe it means that with wisdom and compassion we can stop scrambling away from our pain. With wisdom and courage we can dare to look at the horrors and we can begin to know that we have a problem. We can finally say ‘ouch that hurt’ and practice the epitome of non-violence, by asking how we invited that pain in? We can begin to open our eyes and realize what damage we have done and come to terms with that. We can look and feel at how we have turned our backs on our family or how we have left our vulnerable ones struggling, all because we couldn’t own up to our own pain and begin to take responsibility.
Now is the time to be brave and stop protecting our hearts. Be brave and allow our hearts to be broken a thousand times. Allow our hearts, to feel pain, regrets, abuse, mistrust, all the broken promises and lies. Allow the hurt to pour out and for our tears to cleanse and heal us.
As Rumi says
“There is sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief and unspeakable love”.
To Be Continued………….